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Help others get a job w/out getting burned yourself

Posted by Dr. Susan on June 7, 2009

It’s important to give your time, advice and support to those out of work, but many people are being asked for help several times a week or even a day. You need to find a way to help supportively, but without hurting yourself.

This NY Times piece gives solid advice for how to help without compromising yourself, including my suggestions for how to make sure you don’t let yourself become emotionally drained, but still do your best to help as many people as possible

On the other side, if you’re the networker, looking for a job, there’s a way to do it so that you get what you need without alienating those who are helping. You’ll find advice in this piece for how to do that too!

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April Fool’s Stress

Posted by Dr. Susan on April 1, 2008

An April Fool’s article in today’s New York Times got me thinking about my feeling about practical jokes. Yes, practical jokes can be funny–to the executer and the receiver. But in many cases, it is only the person (or people) perpetrating the joke that ends up laughing. The victim–and I use this word deliberately–feels embarrassed, angry and vulnerable. It takes real talent and sensitivity to execute a practical joke that is funny for both sides of the equation. Most people either don’t have this talent or don’t take the time to figure out how to make it happen. Most prank victims, adults and children alike, will never admit that they were hurt or embarrassed by the prank. This is particularly true in the current climate of “American Idol” reality TV when people are being ridiculed all the time and are supposed to just accept it.

So, if you’re in the mood for an April Fool’s joke today, keep in mind that it’s only funny if both people find it funny, otherwise it’s just hurtful.

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